I’m Clara

I HELP WOMEN IN THEIR 30S AND 40S DATE IN A WAY THAT DOESN’T MAKE THEM FEEL SO MISERABLE

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You probably have a lot of awareness when it comes to your “issues,” whether from traditional therapy or on your own but dating and relationships, and why it hasn’t worked out, feels like something you just “can’t figure out.”

But you haven’t seen your patterns and behaviors, and thus your life, change. And you’ve been trying for a very, very long time.

As somebody who has been able to make most things happen in their life, especially in the academic/professional realm, this feels really foreign. (And painful.)


Want support?

Your dating and relationship life is not by chance. Every one off date, fling, crush gone nowhere, and full blown relationship is part of a larger pattern. One you can choose to repeat — or change. I’m here to change it.

Work intimately with me as we unlock the root obstacles to romantic relationship in your life, conduct deep healing work, and radically change your pursuit of partnership.

While I serve women who are both single and looking for a partner and those already partnered and/or married, I tailor my approach for the context.



The Podcast

Most dating advice has us attempting to follow some formula or rule, all of which either doesn’t work or leaves us feeling not like ourselves.

This podcast was designed to get to the core of what’s actually going on in the lives of women in their 30s + 40s who are struggling with dating, feel like they’ve tried ALL the things, and just don’t know what the hell else to do.

That’s where we’re digging in.

  • MARKETING VP, 34

    “Clara’s holistic approach to modern dating is a breath of fresh air and I absolutely love working with her. She’s helped shift my perspective, explore connections between dating and other areas of my life and own the steps to becoming the truest version of myself. I look forward to our sessions each week and am confident that she’s providing invaluable guidance on my journey to lasting partnership.”

  • LAWYER, 35

    “Working with Clara helped me to rediscover the person that I’ve always been, but had somewhere over the years, either hidden away or forgot for fear of “scaring people off.” By spending time to identify what I find truly unique and special about myself and seeing the value in those things, I now reflect that out to the world and in turn, I feel more grounded in myself and what I’m about. With this renewed trust in myself, I am learning to trust my gut rather than prioritizing others’ preferences and have found so much more happiness in the world as a result!”

  • SALES PROFESSIONAL, 31

    “I feel incredibly lucky to have found Clara at this point in my life. I had already started putting in part of the work with a traditional therapist a few years back, but I was incredibly drawn to Clara’s warmth, openness and intelligence. I learned more from her in a few short months than entire years in the past. The amount of clarity and new knowledge that I gained in my time working with her is pretty astonishing. Once I started putting the things we talked about into practice in the real world, I really saw the power of our work together.”

  • BUSINESS & BRAND STRATEGIST, 35

    “Clara is one of those coaches who clearly has the intelligence and coaching acumen to provide an incredible service — but it’s the enormity or unseen value she delivers that I most cherish. A seemingly simple conversation ignites a depth of awareness and awakening to blind spots unlike most people I’ve worked with.”

  • SENIOR EXECUTIVE, 45

    “Smart, funny, boldly ambitious, honest, authentic, accomplished. That’s me. Oh, and did I mention, 40+ with a wicked inner critic — my ‘Mean Girl’ as I like to call her — that never shuts up and was totally running the show. That was before I started working with Clara. After stumbling upon this post, I emailed her an immediate SOS. It was time to get off the hamster wheel of broken relationships, convinced I would always be too much or not enough. Best decision ever. Clara’s informed, personalized approach has given me the tools to identify the negative self talk (my drug of choice) and faulty belief systems that have been holding me back for way too long. I finally understand that I am the author of my own story, and I’m learning to live into the life until now, I’ve only imagined. ”

  • JOURNALIST AND EDITOR, 32

    “Clara is a rare kind of person, an empathetic pragmatist with honed intuition. Her methodology is enhanced by years of reading, research, and deep engagement with the world —and it shows in the quality of her feedback. She doesn’t try to “solve” the problems I describe to her with boilerplate assessments. Clara’s power is that she offers alternatives I can truly believe in and use.”

  • SET DECORATOR, 38

    “When I first heard about Clara I was entirely skeptical. What could she possibly tell me that I don't know? As it turns out, a LOT. In fact, the very first question she asked me was - what ’stories’ had I been telling myself about why I was single? As someone who has told herself a lot of stories - I realized that she was really onto something here. It’s not so much about what we tell ourselves, it's what we choose to tell ourselves and why.“


The Blog