I believe women in their late 30s and 40s are in need of a different approach to dating and relationships.
I’m here to give it to them.
You probably have a lot of awareness when it comes to your “issues,” whether from traditional therapy or on your own personal development work.
Despite that, dating and relationships, and why they haven’t worked out, still feels like something you “can’t figure out.”
You haven’t seen your patterns, and thus your life, change. And you’ve been trying for a very, very long time.
As somebody who has been able to make most things happen in their life, especially in the academic/professional realm, this feels really foreign. (And painful.)
This is where traditional dating advice fails us.
It doesn’t get to the core — traditional dating advice sits on the surface. Much like the diet or wellness industry, that present solutions that promise specific results, much of the dating and relationship advice out there is generalized. It’s often very snack-able, digestible content, meant to be immediately and easily implemented, holding the (empty) promise of change.
But our individual pursuit of partnership, like our health, is not a one size fits all solution. It’s a nuanced journey and the stuff that actually makes a difference — it can’t be explained in an Instagram reel, in a single webinar, or a single book. It has to be integrated. It requires a coming at it from all angles but in a tender, nourishing way approach. It requires compassion, curiosity and small, step by step actions.
i imagine you sometimes feel…
That time is running out, that you’re too far behind
Something might be wrong with you — Why does it work out for everyone else? Why can’t I make this happen?
There are fewer quality/secure men available and you’re going to have to settle
You’d lose yourself in a relationship (because it’s happened in the past)
It’s just never going to work out and you won’t get to experience this thing of build a life with someone else, of being adored and cared for
And it’s a hard to admit that…
You’re often lonely.
You hide how disconnected you feel from your friends.
You weren’t the popular/pretty girl growing up so now wanting a relationship holds a lot of shame.
While you generally have other areas of your life under control, you struggle to trust yourself when it comes to dating and relationships.
You often hide how much they want a partner or a family or both, because the shame of wanting something and not having it feels unbearable.
My friend, I deeply, deeply understand.
And I’m here to help.
Which better describes you right now?
I’m Clara
Dumbfounded by my own dating experience as a late 20 something in New York, nearly a decade ago, I set out to create an approach to dating and partnership that served me. With an eye towards taking all the advice and information that was being thrown my way and turning it on its head, what started out as an effort to meet someone became a journey into self, with dates, relationships, and rich lessons peppered along the way. That approach ultimately birthed I Think I Like You, this practice where I teach to other women (mainly in their 30s and 40s but sometimes beyond), through online programs, private coaching practice and weekly podcast.
I want to reframe my approach to dating…
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Big Dating Nap
It’s a four-week period to actively NOT date so you can devote your time and energy to understanding the bigger picture of your romantic patterns.
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Dating Sanity Capsule
A course designed to make dating apps less miserable and show you no nonsense ways to approach them and actually meet people.
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Private Coaching
An intimate, long-term container to help women to finally unearth why dating and relationships have been so hard.
My new relationship is a true testimony to the fact that working with Clara was an invaluable experience for me. I could not recommend it more to anyone who has struggled with dating and relationships. With so much terrible dating advice out there, Clara has such a unique and thoughtful approach that is not to be missed.
— Female, 37, NYC
I want to strengthen my sense of self in my relationship.
Maintaining who we are within the structure of a partnership, a shared life, is no small feat. Especially if, like me, you’re wired with the following:
A history of people pleasing
A fear that if you disappoint others, they’ll leave
A history of sourcing all your self worth from accomplishment (It feels soooo good)
A tendency to always be on (I’m just not good at relaxing!)
A tendency to be the caretaker, the nurturer, but also the one who’s so damn burnt out
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