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Dating and relationship coaching for high-achieving and high-functioning women.

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What People Are Saying

I came to Clara in 2021 thinking we'd talk only about dating. What I didn't expect was all the ways she would crack me open, and how truly transforming our work would be not only in my dating life but in work, family, and friendships. Clara taught me how to be vulnerable and got me talking about my feelings in a way I never had before. Traditional therapy scared me at the time, but she set me on a new path of being softer, kinder, and more curious with myself.

She has a rare gift for making you feel completely seen while gently challenging you. When I resisted going on a first date with the man who is now my husband ('he's into hiking, I'm not!'), she simply asked, 'Do you think it's possible that partners can have different hobbies?' 

I see my work with Clara as a real turning point in my life. Our work together set me on the path to meet and ultimately marry my husband, but also to leave my job and start something completely new. Clara was able to pull things out of me I didn't even know were there, and I'm endlessly grateful to her and the version of myself she helped me to meet.

When I started working with Clara, I felt like I had achieved “success” in so many parts of my life but that I was constantly “failing” in the romance department. I was a little skeptical when she suggested the answer might trace back to my childhood, but I was open to seeing where her theory would lead us. Through our sessions, she helped me understand how old patterns were showing up as an inability to set boundaries and, maybe as importantly, a resistance to actually accepting love and support from a partner. The work we did together turned out to be transformative. I met my now-husband while working with Clara — we've been together five years and married for one.  I did some follow-up work with Clara about a year after our initial sessions that helped me work through the feelings associated with actually being in a long-term, secure relationship, which was a brand new world to me.  Through it all, Clara gave me excellent support and guidance but also pushed me to see things in a new way.  I have no doubt that the relationship I have with my husband would not have been possible without the work I did with Clara and I’m eternally grateful for the experience!    

Working with Clara isn't surface level. You can go to therapy for years and have a surface-level relationship with your therapist. Working with her required digging a lot deeper, and it took time: journal prompts, reading, recommended podcasts. It really helped peel the onion back. I'm still doing that. My boss even tells me, "Every time I talk to you, it's like peeling back an onion."

Clara meets each client where they are. She holds space spectacularly well. In a world full of quick fixes, that matters. A lot of what I needed, I didn't even know coming in. I signed up for a dating coach. I ended up learning about boundaries with my family and my work. I learned to speak up. I changed managers. I'm now leading a team at a new company because of the strength I built working with her.

Now I'm engaged. My partner and I had been in the same circles for 15 years, probably at the same parties, passing each other on the sidewalk. We just hadn't done the work we each needed to do. You have to do the work to become the best version of yourself to meet your person. Clara has a special skill for helping people do that work in a way that builds them up. (Photo Credit)

The Podcast

Smartphone displaying a podcast episode titled 'Should I settle for this? How do I know?' with a cover image of a woman with blonde hair and a red top, and the podcast name 'I Think I Like You' with host Clara Artschwager.

If quippy dating advice, more detail about our attachment styles, or perpetually trying to “fix” ourselves worked, you wouldn’t be here. Neither would I.

I Think I Like You, the podcast, was designed for high achieving women in their 30s and 40s hungry for a different conversation around relationships. Especially us good girls, hero children, people pleasers, and type As, who are quite used to life going our way in a certain respect. So why not here? And why are we so unfulfilled? Whether due to an endless slew of mediocre dates or a stale marriage where we feel more like a Director of Operations than a partner.

That’s where we’re digging in.

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  • MARKETING VP, 34

    “Clara’s holistic approach to modern dating is a breath of fresh air and I absolutely love working with her. She’s helped shift my perspective, explore connections between dating and other areas of my life and own the steps to becoming the truest version of myself. I look forward to our sessions each week and am confident that she’s providing invaluable guidance on my journey to lasting partnership.”

  • LAWYER, 35

    “Working with Clara helped me to rediscover the person that I’ve always been, but had somewhere over the years, either hidden away or forgot for fear of “scaring people off.” By spending time to identify what I find truly unique and special about myself and seeing the value in those things, I now reflect that out to the world and in turn, I feel more grounded in myself and what I’m about. With this renewed trust in myself, I am learning to trust my gut rather than prioritizing others’ preferences and have found so much more happiness in the world as a result!”

  • SALES PROFESSIONAL, 31

    “I feel incredibly lucky to have found Clara at this point in my life. I had already started putting in part of the work with a traditional therapist a few years back, but I was incredibly drawn to Clara’s warmth, openness and intelligence. I learned more from her in a few short months than entire years in the past. The amount of clarity and new knowledge that I gained in my time working with her is pretty astonishing. Once I started putting the things we talked about into practice in the real world, I really saw the power of our work together.”

  • BUSINESS & BRAND STRATEGIST, 35

    “Clara is one of those coaches who clearly has the intelligence and coaching acumen to provide an incredible service — but it’s the enormity or unseen value she delivers that I most cherish. A seemingly simple conversation ignites a depth of awareness and awakening to blind spots unlike most people I’ve worked with.”

  • SENIOR EXECUTIVE, 45

    “Smart, funny, boldly ambitious, honest, authentic, accomplished. That’s me. Oh, and did I mention, 40+ with a wicked inner critic — my ‘Mean Girl’ as I like to call her — that never shuts up and was totally running the show. That was before I started working with Clara. After stumbling upon this post, I emailed her an immediate SOS. It was time to get off the hamster wheel of broken relationships, convinced I would always be too much or not enough. Best decision ever. Clara’s informed, personalized approach has given me the tools to identify the negative self talk (my drug of choice) and faulty belief systems that have been holding me back for way too long. I finally understand that I am the author of my own story, and I’m learning to live into the life until now, I’ve only imagined. ”

  • JOURNALIST AND EDITOR, 32

    “Clara is a rare kind of person, an empathetic pragmatist with honed intuition. Her methodology is enhanced by years of reading, research, and deep engagement with the world —and it shows in the quality of her feedback. She doesn’t try to “solve” the problems I describe to her with boilerplate assessments. Clara’s power is that she offers alternatives I can truly believe in and use.”

  • SET DECORATOR, 38

    “When I first heard about Clara I was entirely skeptical. What could she possibly tell me that I don't know? As it turns out, a LOT. In fact, the very first question she asked me was - what ’stories’ had I been telling myself about why I was single? As someone who has told herself a lot of stories - I realized that she was really onto something here. It’s not so much about what we tell ourselves, it's what we choose to tell ourselves and why.“