EP 96 | "I don't want to waste time dating" --> How that goal is working against you

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Here's something clients say to me all the time:

I don't want to waste time dating.

I totally get where they're coming from, but that desire and sentiment is totally working against them. That's what I'm unpacking in today's episode along with more legitimately helpful tools to reframe your dating life.

This episode will resonate if you:

  • Find yourself overly scrutinizing people's profiles

  • Tend to look at someone's profile or observe their behavior pre-date and make immediate and strict judgements about them (They used this emoji! They're a selfish human being!)

  • Blame yourself if you end up on a date that goes poorly, saying "I should have seen this coming!"

  • Identify as an overachiever

  • Place a lot of value on doing things well β€” being productive and efficient in all areas of your life

This episode will benefit anyone who:

  • Feels extremely frustrated and let down when they wind up on dates that are unenjoyable or don't go anywhere (You tend to be really hard on yourself or ruminate on what you could have done differently to avoid this outcome)

  • Finds the overall process of dating rather miserable and wish it were easier

  • Are constantly searching for a better way or easier way to discern whether someone is worth meeting in person, but never finding a solution

  • Fear getting hurt in the dating process

  • Have a historical fear of intimacy or have a history of choosing romantically unavailable partners

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