Most of my clients buried themselves in their academics growing up. Early on they discovered that was a guaranteed way to receive love, praise and affection. The thing about operating that way is that it very much creates an identity of: I'm not desirable, I'm not worthy of a boyfriend. Today's episode explore how we can shift that adolescent identity and allow for romance later in life.

What do we do when we hit those points in life where it all becomes too much? Where “pushing through,” is no longer an option? In today’s episode I’m sharing how I hit one such patch (and hard), this spring, and what I’m doing to slow down and ease my way back to myself.

How do we know when we want to marry someone? In today's episode I'm going behind on my first date with my husband, what the first few months of dating was like, how we went from dating to engaged, and how when I swiped right on him, I never imagined this person would be my future husband.

Not getting any matches on dating apps like Hinge, Bumble and Tinder, or matching with people but not really connecting with anyone, is a really common but frustrating outcome. It feels hard enough to get on and swipe, and then to not match with anyone? Ouch. This episode explains the underlying causes to not experiencing success or satisfaction on the dating apps.

In the early stages of dating or a relationship, it can be really difficult to endure the period where you've developing feelings, you have a crush on someone, but you're not sure if the feeling is mutual (especially for those dealing with an anxious attachment style). This episode explores ways to manage the stress and anxiety of this period.

This episode explores how making an exhaustive and very specific list of all of the things we want in a partner, actually works against us, not for us.

When we suffer from an anxious attachment style, it's very challenging to form secure bonds in relationships. Today's episode introduces a new way to transition from an anxious attachment style to a more secure attachment style, and to continue to find more stability and safety in relationships.

In today's episode, I'm opening up about my fertility journey, and how the ups and downs, are reminding me a lot of my dating journey.

In today’s episode, I’m talking about our tendency to pin our struggle to meet someone on our location.

In this heartfelt episode, we confront the daunting reality of being trapped in a dating coma and the profound resistance that accompanies it. Join me as we explore the underlying factors contributing to this inertia and uncover transformative strategies to reignite the flames of connection.

Key insights include:

Unmasking Resistance: Dissecting common narratives such as age concerns, app aversion, or perceived scarcity of eligible partners, and revealing how they serve as veils for deeper resistance to dating.

Identifying Root Causes: Delving into three prevalent scenarios fueling resistance to dating, from suppressed emotions to paralyzing rumination, and offering actionable steps to break free from their grip.

Redefining Jumpstarting: Challenging the notion of quick fixes and acknowledging the nuanced journey of reigniting one's dating life, emphasizing the importance of patience, self-compassion, and sustainable growth.

In today's short episode, I'm sharing something I love to have my clients add to their dating profiles to mix up the monotony.

This episode will resonate if:

You're feeling blah about your profile and limited by your photo options

You struggle to make your profile feel like you

You find dating apps kind of miserable and could use a playful activity to shift up the energy

You're down for out of the box thinking when it comes to dating

In today's empowering episode, we confront the all-too-common sentiment of feeling stuck and hopeless in the realm of dating. Rather than succumbing to the pressure of doing more, we explore a transformative approach designed to break free from the cycle of rumination and guilt.

Join me as we unravel:

The Fallacy of "Not Doing Enough": Acknowledging the flawed narratives we construct around our dating efforts and challenging the notion that more effort necessarily yields better results.

A Tailored Approach to Dating: Introducing a simple yet highly effective tactic tailored to individual dating needs, offering a personalized roadmap to opening oneself up to partnership.

Breaking the Cycle: Providing practical strategies to disrupt the cycle of rumination, guilt, and resistance to dating, empowering listeners to navigate their dating journey with renewed clarity and purpose.

This episode offers solace and guidance to those who:

Struggle with self-shame regarding their dating efforts.

Feel disillusioned by their lack of tangible results despite their best attempts.

Seek direction and actionable steps to cultivate meaningful change in their dating behavior.

Join me as we embrace a paradigm shift in our approach to dating, transcending the confines of conventional wisdom to forge a path toward authentic connection and fulfillment.

In this reflective episode, we confront the pervasive feeling of being "behind" in life and the tumultuous emotions it evokes. Join me as we delve into the complexities of societal expectations and personal aspirations, challenging the notion that success is measured by external achievements alone.

Key themes explored include:

The Pursuit of External Validation: Unraveling the belief that fulfillment hinges on obtaining specific job titles, relationships, or financial status, and the anxiety that ensues when these milestones remain elusive.

Navigating Relationship Dynamics: Addressing the fear of chronic singleness and the belief that a single relationship or financial windfall will resolve all woes, offering a fresh perspective on finding contentment within oneself.

Coping with Comparison: Confronting the pervasive culture of comparison exacerbated by social media, and the toll it takes on our mental well-being, urging listeners to redefine success on their own terms.

Authentic Motivation: Encouraging introspection into the roots of our ambitions and goals, discerning whether they stem from genuine desire or unhealed wounds, and fostering a healthier approach to goal-setting and achievement.

This episode serves as a gentle reminder to embrace life's unpredictable journey, celebrating the small victories and finding solace in the present moment. Whether you're grappling with feelings of inadequacy or navigating the pressures of societal expectations, join me in redefining success and finding fulfillment amidst life's uncertainties.

An look at 2024 with psychological astrologer with Dani Beinstein.

In this intimate episode, I unveil one of the cherished aspects of my marriage: the profound ability my husband and I share in discussing our respective pasts, especially previous relationships. Join me as I reflect on the early days of our connection and how this openness became a cornerstone of our relationship.

Additionally, I delve into my current personal reflections, including unexpected realizations and the ongoing journey of growth as a partner. Candidly, I share the challenges of undertaking the Whole30 with my husband, despite its undeniable health benefits for him.

Key highlights include:

The Power of Past Relationship Conversations: Exploring how discussing past relationships can strengthen the foundation of a partnership and foster a deeper understanding between partners.

Personal Reflections: Unveiling my own current struggles and areas of personal growth within the marriage, demonstrating the ongoing evolution of a committed relationship.

Shared Wellness Journey: Navigating the challenges of aligning personal wellness goals, particularly the Whole30, and the impact it has on our relationship dynamics.

This episode offers a glimpse into the dynamics of a marriage, showcasing the beauty of open communication about the past and the ongoing commitment to personal and shared growth. Join me as we navigate the tapestry of love, sharing insights that resonate with anyone on a journey of partnership and self-discovery.