In today’s episode I’m digging into the following conundrum: Why do women who don’t do the work, who are are just as messed up as the rest of us, find great people? Why does it not happen for women who feel like they’ve done so much healing and therapeutic work?

This episode kicks off a three part series that takes a deep dive into the characteristics of eldest daughters/hero children and their specific struggles in romantic relationships. If you grew up in a family where you took on the role of peacekeeper, good girl, always easy and accommodating — this episode will really resonate.

How do we know if we're settling? How do we handle our partner’s flaws? Is it better to meet people in person or online? How did I know my husband was the one? Should I do a prenup? A more in this Q+A episode.

We are digging into all things MONEY today. In this episode I'm taking you behind the scenes of the financial picture in our marriage, how we've moved through really hard money conversations and how working on my own relationship with money has been the most impactful thing when it comes to finding ease around finance in my relationship. That said, it's definitely a work in progress!

On the heals of a very significant friendship ending for me in the last few years, the nature of friendship — what drives our friendships, what they look like, how our relational patterns manifest in this space (i.e. outside of romance) — has been of particular interest to me. I’m digging into all of that and more, with specific focus on how friendship evolves in our 30s and 40s in today’s episode.

Do you feel behind in life? It's a question I face and contemplate with clients (and often myself) all the time. Today's conversation isn't one geared towards telling you to "be grateful," or "just accept" everyone is on their own timeline. I'm going to the heart of what I believe rests beneath the feeling of being behind, whether we feel it in relationships, work, money, or simply life in general.

For our babymoon, my husband and I spent two weeks in France, visiting Provence, the Cote d’Azur and Paris. Here’s where we stayed, what we ate, what we saw and how much we spent.

In the last few months, I’ve noticed a change in the career conversations I’m having with friends. We’re all saying: I want a less demanding job. I don't care as much about climbing the corporate ladder. I want a job I enjoy but one that doesn't rob me of my life. I want more time with my family and to invest in my hobbies. That's the focus of today's episode.

Did you grow up learning to work hard, get good grades, get into the best school(s) possible, hit any academic and professional achievement that you could? I did. And I learned to love it.

I learned to love, and thus value, hustle, hard work, striving, strain, stress. On the one hand, it's served me well in what I've accomplished. On the other hand — and I see this with women all the time — it's made me resistant to pleasure, enjoyment and rest in my life.

In today's episode, I'm breaking down how that resistance shakes out in our romantic experiences

Last summer, in an attempt to impress our house guests and make my famous chicken wings, I ended up not only destroying then, but then falling apart because of it. My inner child so badly wanted to impress my husband's friends, but ended up having a full on tantrum because of how much shame she felt.

Are you trying to maniacally control your dating life? Do you struggle with just being present in the experience of getting to know someone, and not being overriden by anxiety or fears of where something is going? Do you then beat yourself up when the relationship doesn’t shake out exactly as you’d hoped? Today’s episode explores the nature of the dating era we live in — how we hold faulty expectations of how smoothly finding a partner should go, and how if we don’t our expectations we then not only blame ourselves, but rob ourselves of the benefits of the experience.

After my husband and I miscarried last year, I expected the second we got pregnant again I would be over the moon. And I was. But I didn't anticipate also feeling so scared, a bit regretful. Part of that was informed by debilitating morning sickness and exhaustion, but the other part was the new reality: This baby was really coming.

After my husband and I miscarried last year, I expected the second we got pregnant again I would be over the moon. And I was. But I didn't anticipate also feeling so scared, a bit regretful. Part of that was informed by debilitating morning sickness and exhaustion, but the other part was the new reality: This baby was really coming.

Most of my clients buried themselves in their academics growing up. Early on they discovered that was a guaranteed way to receive love, praise and affection. The thing about operating that way is that it very much creates an identity of: I'm not desirable, I'm not worthy of a boyfriend. Today's episode explore how we can shift that adolescent identity and allow for romance later in life.

What do we do when we hit those points in life where it all becomes too much? Where “pushing through,” is no longer an option? In today’s episode I’m sharing how I hit one such patch (and hard), this spring, and what I’m doing to slow down and ease my way back to myself.

How do we know when we want to marry someone? In today's episode I'm going behind on my first date with my husband, what the first few months of dating was like, how we went from dating to engaged, and how when I swiped right on him, I never imagined this person would be my future husband.

I thought getting married and having the relationship I dreamed of, would wash away the shame I felt for not being the popular teenager. Turns out, it’s more complicated than that.

Years ago I went through a very painful breakup that left me with zero capacity to date. It was hard to tell when I would ever be ready to date again. This piece shares the story of how I came to that answer by way of meeting new people.

Not getting any matches on dating apps like Hinge, Bumble and Tinder, or matching with people but not really connecting with anyone, is a really common but frustrating outcome. It feels hard enough to get on and swipe, and then to not match with anyone? Ouch. This episode explains the underlying causes to not experiencing success or satisfaction on the dating apps.